A space for bereaved fathers, held within BROS.

Still Standing is a circle for men whose child has passed away.

It is held by fathers who have walked this road. Not facilitators who have read about it. Men who know, because they carry it too.

Brothers who have walked this, and brothers who are walking it right now, coming together. No fixing. No advice. A space to be heard by men who innerstand.

We are building pathways into professional support for men who need more than a circle can hold.

Facilitated by the BROS Leadership community.

Any questions - stillstanding@bros.nz

Circle Types

Two circles each month, online, aligned to the moon cycle.

1. Open Circle

The come-as-you-are circle. Any brother, any night in his grief, no pressure to speak. Held on the Thursday closest to the new moon.

2. My Child, My Pēpi

One brother shares his child and his story, and the circle holds him while he does. Witnessing, not fixing. Held on the Thursday closest to the full moon.

Who holds this

This circle is held by fathers who have experienced the loss of a child.

That is the only qualification that matters here. Not training, not theory. Lived experience, and the willingness to sit with another man in it.

Alongside them sits an elder from within BROS.

Circle rhythm

Circles will run online via Zoom, 7:30pm. Twice a month, aligned to the moon.

Open Circle sits closest to the new moon. My Child, My Pepi / My Story, My Korero sits closest to the full moon, where one brother shares his story.

Exact start date TBC.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • You will get a personal email back - not an automated reply.

    If you would rather talk than email, send your phone number to stillstanding@bros.nz and someone will call you.

  • Brothers who have walked this, and brothers who are walking it right now, coming together.

    No pressure to speak. A space to share.

    We open with the BROS circle agreements - L.I.S.T.E.N.S - the same agreements read at the start of every BROS circle.

  • Fathers who have experienced the loss of a child, alongside an elder from within BROS.

  • Twice a month, online via Zoom, 7:30pm. Aligned to the moon cycle.

    Circles start once everything is properly set up and ready to go live.

  • Nothing you have to pay.

    The real cost is your time, which is the one thing none of us gets back.

    If you are moved to give koha it is welcome, but never expected. No man is turned away for what he can or cannot give.

  • Fathers whose child has passed away, at any stage, at any point in their grief.

    Some men come weeks after. Some come years after. There is no right time.

  • No.

    Not Therapy is one of the BROS circle agreements. No fixing, no saving. A space to share authentically and be heard.

    We are building pathways into professional support for men who need more than that.

  • Yes. Seal it In is a BROS circle agreement. What is shared in circle stays in circle.

  • No. Come and listen for as long as you need to.

  • Online circles come first. In-person gatherings are where this is heading, held within BROS.